Tuesday, 17 October 2017

Exercise | Mind, Body and Soul

Depending on what kind of person you are, exercise is one of those topics that will make you run for the hills or quite literally, run. 

When you hear the word exercise what do you picture? I picture a red face, a messy pineapple-looking bun falling over the place, sweaty neck, back and... well, you get it. A damn hot mess in other words. But exercise doesn’t have to always be that way.

Not many people, well next to no one, knows this but for the last few months I’ve been struggling a lot with... what shall we call it? Mind, body and soul. If you read one of my previous posts on feeling lost then you’ll get a better idea of what I’m talking about. During this time I slacked majorly on near enough any form of physical activity and it showed. 

Before I got into this slump I was a full on gym bunny and nothing would get in my way of making it to the gym no matter how early or late in the day to hit the weights room and blow off some steam. I was training 4-5 days a week and sometimes more purely for the fact it made me feel so damn good. It wasn’t just the lack of gym that was taking its toll on me. It was the lack of anything physical. I stopped going for long walks on my own around the parks I love, I stopped waking up at 6am on my days off to get shit done, however, I made all the time in the world to sit on my ass and do sweet FA all day. Every day. 

Fuck. What a lazy bitch I had become.

I knew this wasn’t right. I knew it from the start but I have now started to want to make that change. Not for anyone else. For me. After speaking to my boyfriend - who is like my best friend, soul mate and life coach rolled into one (an absolute babe) - a million and one times about this issue, I decided it was time to take action. I started with the smaller things first. Getting shit done. I.e. not laying in bed all day watching Netflix. I’ve started waking up at 6am on all my days off again to get up and get my day started and most importantly, getting my ass to the gym. At first, it was a big struggle. I thought fuck me how am I ever going to get back into a proper routine again? But I persevered and it’s happening. Change is taking place and I’m slowly but surely starting to feel like myself again.

It’s incredible what an impact exercise can have on you. I instantly feel more energised, alert, positive and most importantly, happier. Of course, along with the mental side of things I have started to see and feel a slight change in my figure. The things that are helping me boost my confidence. My bum is perkier, my legs are getting their strength back, my back is taking shape and my muscles ache all the time. But I love it. I’ve missed that ache so much. The ache that reminds me I got up and worked my ass off in the gym. That I’m beginning to better myself inside and out day by day, making positive changes in my life.

Equally, it’s important to remember that you don’t have to throw around weights in the gym or be slogging your guts out on the treadmill to feel better. Any kind of physical activity is good (yes, I suppose, even that kind) whether it be taking a walk, running outdoors, going to a dance class, trying out yoga for the first time... it’s all that goodness that everyone needs for their mind, body and soul. 

I’m not for one second saying I’ve got this whole thing nailed and I’m loving life 24/7 but what I am doing is making those small, maybe insignificant, changes day by day which all amount to something much greater and there is no better feeling than the happiness you feel from within. I’m certainly on the road to becoming that positive, outgoing and confident person I was but it will be a long journey for sure and not always an easy one but I know it will be worth it in the end. I’ll be drivelling on over the next however-many-weeks about my journey. The mind, body and soul series. Yup. We’ll call it that. I’ll write about my feelings, what’s going on and how I’m helping myself day by day and whether you can’t relate at all or you do... whatever it is that makes you read, I hope you enjoy and of course, any suggestions on things to do and try... chuck ‘em my way.

Until next time...

Elle x 

Saturday, 7 October 2017

Feelings

Feeling (Noun):
  1. An emotional state or reaction.
2. An idea or belief, especially a vague or irrational one.

Feeling (Adjective):
1. Showing emotion or sensitivity.

No one has the right to tell you how you should or shouldn’t feel about anything in life. Ever.

It doesn’t matter if you have quite literally cried over spilt milk or you don’t react to something so crazy that everyone else is getting angry about. The way you feel is completely personal to you. Some people will get mad and tell someone to fuck off when they’re rude, some will suck it up and then go home to cry later and some may just not even react at all. 

Everyone will have their own opinion on how they think you should feel and react to things in life but no one has the right to put you down for feeling and reacting to such things in the way you do. Do not under any circumstances let anyone make you feel shitty for getting upset over things that they claim wouldn’t faze them or vice versa.

Everyone experiences the world and the things that happen to them differently. Everyone experiences overwhelming emotions at some point in their life. That’s what makes it so beautiful. That someone could feel that powerfully. They feel that strongly about something in their life. That they will fight to have their feelings heard. That’s what makes human connections so special. The fact that someone may not feel hurt and upset the way you do but that they try to understand and guide you into dealing with such emotions. They may help you to see things in a different light, a bigger picture or maybe just to sit and listen. To accept that what you’re saying in that moment in time is exactly how you feel and that won’t change. Not for them, not for anyone. Because your feelings are yours. Your emotions are yours. No one can take that away from you. 

So, if you want to cry because you missed the bus or you want to snap your pen in anger because it’s run out of ink or maybe you want to stand up and shout about how much you love and adore someone, do it. Don’t think twice. Don’t regret. Don’t let anyone tell you how you should feel or react. 

Do what you feel and live unapologetically. You are you. You feel what you do and no one can ever take that away from you.


Elle x 

Friday, 6 October 2017

Christmas Chaos

Yes, yes I know what you’re thinking. Why is she talking about Christmas when we haven’t even got through Halloween yet? I’ll tell you why. 

From as early as August big stores such as Harrods and Selfridges start plastering their shop floors and websites with everything Christmas. Now, don’t get me wrong, I am a huge lover of everything Christmas but every year, it seems to start earlier and earlier and the cost just continues to rise.

If you think about it, how many people realistically celebrate Christmas for religious purposes and not just for the purpose of gift giving and over indulging? Not many. And this is exactly what corporations play on. I am one of the least religious people you will ever come across however I do still celebrate Christmas for those exact reasons I just stated, gift giving and over indulging. So, yes. I too, have been sucked into the big money-spending corporation that we call Christmas.

I’m not saying there’s necessarily anything wrong with that either. We all do exactly the same for Easter, Valentine’s Day, Shrove Tuesday and so on... not because we want to celebrate those days but maybe more for the fact we feel like we have to. Because if we don’t, we won’t be following what society wants us to do, we won’t fit in and we will certainly get major FOMO.

Think about it. How many times have you been rushing round the shops in the lead up to Christmas grabbing anything and everything off the shelves. “3 for 2 on complete an utter shit that no one actually wants? Perfect! I’ll take 12!” We’ve all done it. We all get sucked in. There’s nothing wrong with spending money and treating the ones we love but it’s also important to see the bigger picture of it all. Why would you spend £600 (sounds OTT but it all adds up) on everyone over Christmas on tat that no one really wants/needs when that’s more than half your monthly wage? And even if that’s only 1/4 of your monthly wage then why the hell are you wasting it anyway?! 

And let me make this clear, there is absolutely nothing wrong with gift-giving over the Christmas holidays. I love to do it myself. I absolutely love buying thoughtful gifts for the ones I love and put smiles on their faces but be smart about it. Don’t over spend. Don’t buy what you can’t afford. Don’t have pennies left at the end of the month because you’ve spent more than you can afford on gifts that people might not even want. Don’t get sucked into the offers that are constantly plastered over the TV, radio, shops, magazines and newspapers that aren’t actually offers at all as you end up buying more and spending more just to save 3 quid on stuff you didn’t want in the first place.

One thing I love doing is to use Christmas as an opportunity to buy people experiences that I know they would love to do but would never book themselves rather than give materialistic items. Giving someone the gift of an experience you know they’ll love will not only be so much nicer to receive on the day but will also create memories for the future instead of something that will just get pushed to the back of the wardrobe in a months time. 

I guess the whole point of this post is to realise that’s it absolutely fine to enjoy Christmas, to over indulge and enjoy yourself but just don’t over spend. Really think about the presents you want to buy. Spread the cost of buying gifts over a couple months, looks for discount codes, offers (the good kind not the ones that don’t actually save you anything) and most importantly, budget. I’ve already completed over half my Christmas shopping and I’ve made sure I’ve got the best deals possible, budgeted it all and saved myself plently of money whilst still buying amazing gifts for the ones I love.

Another important point to make is to not just think of yourself and the ones you love at Christmas but also the ones who have no one to love them. The homeless, elderly who don’t have family/live on their own and those that can’t even afford a Christmas dinner. I will be helping in whatever way I can by taking food to food banks and looking into making Christmas Boxes filled with toys/food/clothes and so on for those that need it most. If anyone reading knows of any charities who do this kind of thing or even if you’d want to join me in helping then please don’t hesitate to contact me through any means on my ‘Contact’ page at the top of my blog. 

So, remember. Eat lots, enjoy the festive period and make plenty of amazing memories but do give gifts without over spending and damaging the bank account and help those around who are less fortunate to have a magical Christmas too.

Thank you for reading 

Elle x