Thursday, 2 November 2017

Positivity | Mind, Body and Soul

In a world full of heartache, sadness and anger it’s increasingly hard to look through the negatives thrown your way and view them in a positive light.

Think of the last negative thing that happened to you. Whether that be missing the bus, having an argument with a loved one, your boss moaning at you at work... how did you deal with it? There’s two ways you could have dealt with it. 1. You accepted what has happened but refuse to let it interfere with your day and instead looked past it and seen the positive effects that may come from this and show you how to do things differently in the future. 2. You got the hump, you’re moody as fuck, you’ve had a face like a slapped ass all day and moaned constantly about your burdens in life. And I can guarantee it was the latter. 

For me, it was always the latter. I used to be such an outgoing, happy, young woman that everyone always wanted around then a year ago, it was like someone flipped the switch and I became this dull, boring as fuck, negative Nancy that no one wanted to be around. 

Being a negative person doesn’t just ruin your own day, your own outlook on life and things that come your way but it ruins everybody’s around you too. I can easily list minimum 5 people in my life who quite literally drain the life out of me. They never have anything good to say or if they do it always has to be followed by five thousands negative thoughts. It’s not healthy. It’s not normal. It is not okay. After realising I was becoming one of this mosquitos, sucking out everyone’s good vibes, I decided to make a conscious decision to change this and get back to happy, outgoing, positive old me but even better this time. 

It is a lot harder to go through life and be happy and positive all the time than to be negative.  I mean, of course it is, you know that. It’s so much easier to sit there and moan about every little damn thing and how life owes you some kind of gratification for all this bullshit. And that’s exactly what that is, bullshit. 

At the end of every day I pull up the notes in my phone and I list 3 things that have made me happy/feel good/glad I’m alive. Just 3. So damn simple but so damn effective. It opens up your eyes, it makes you really think about your life and pick apart your day. I don’t even notice the negative things that may have happened anymore. It’s that “oh well” kinda attitude and I get over it. Most days I actually struggle to think of only 3 things to choose. I’m going to keep on doing this for as long as possible and at any given moment I can pick up my phone look through my notes and see all the amazing people and things I have going on in my life.

Evaluate, reflect and think logically about everything that happens day to day and watch how your whole outlook on life changes. It’s amazing. I haven’t been doing it for that long and I’ve already noticed huge changes. People are gravitating towards me whether it’s to chat or hang out and I go to bed feeling happy every night. No more ‘shit days’, ‘bad days’, ‘just want to stay in bed days’, no more surrounding myself with negative, draining people whether that be family, loved one, friends acquaintances. I’m all about good days, great days, getting my ass up as soon as the sun rises and making every moment in every day count, great people, happy people, go-getters and positive vibes.

Misery loves company. Don’t let it be yours.

Elle x 

Tuesday, 17 October 2017

Exercise | Mind, Body and Soul

Depending on what kind of person you are, exercise is one of those topics that will make you run for the hills or quite literally, run. 

When you hear the word exercise what do you picture? I picture a red face, a messy pineapple-looking bun falling over the place, sweaty neck, back and... well, you get it. A damn hot mess in other words. But exercise doesn’t have to always be that way.

Not many people, well next to no one, knows this but for the last few months I’ve been struggling a lot with... what shall we call it? Mind, body and soul. If you read one of my previous posts on feeling lost then you’ll get a better idea of what I’m talking about. During this time I slacked majorly on near enough any form of physical activity and it showed. 

Before I got into this slump I was a full on gym bunny and nothing would get in my way of making it to the gym no matter how early or late in the day to hit the weights room and blow off some steam. I was training 4-5 days a week and sometimes more purely for the fact it made me feel so damn good. It wasn’t just the lack of gym that was taking its toll on me. It was the lack of anything physical. I stopped going for long walks on my own around the parks I love, I stopped waking up at 6am on my days off to get shit done, however, I made all the time in the world to sit on my ass and do sweet FA all day. Every day. 

Fuck. What a lazy bitch I had become.

I knew this wasn’t right. I knew it from the start but I have now started to want to make that change. Not for anyone else. For me. After speaking to my boyfriend - who is like my best friend, soul mate and life coach rolled into one (an absolute babe) - a million and one times about this issue, I decided it was time to take action. I started with the smaller things first. Getting shit done. I.e. not laying in bed all day watching Netflix. I’ve started waking up at 6am on all my days off again to get up and get my day started and most importantly, getting my ass to the gym. At first, it was a big struggle. I thought fuck me how am I ever going to get back into a proper routine again? But I persevered and it’s happening. Change is taking place and I’m slowly but surely starting to feel like myself again.

It’s incredible what an impact exercise can have on you. I instantly feel more energised, alert, positive and most importantly, happier. Of course, along with the mental side of things I have started to see and feel a slight change in my figure. The things that are helping me boost my confidence. My bum is perkier, my legs are getting their strength back, my back is taking shape and my muscles ache all the time. But I love it. I’ve missed that ache so much. The ache that reminds me I got up and worked my ass off in the gym. That I’m beginning to better myself inside and out day by day, making positive changes in my life.

Equally, it’s important to remember that you don’t have to throw around weights in the gym or be slogging your guts out on the treadmill to feel better. Any kind of physical activity is good (yes, I suppose, even that kind) whether it be taking a walk, running outdoors, going to a dance class, trying out yoga for the first time... it’s all that goodness that everyone needs for their mind, body and soul. 

I’m not for one second saying I’ve got this whole thing nailed and I’m loving life 24/7 but what I am doing is making those small, maybe insignificant, changes day by day which all amount to something much greater and there is no better feeling than the happiness you feel from within. I’m certainly on the road to becoming that positive, outgoing and confident person I was but it will be a long journey for sure and not always an easy one but I know it will be worth it in the end. I’ll be drivelling on over the next however-many-weeks about my journey. The mind, body and soul series. Yup. We’ll call it that. I’ll write about my feelings, what’s going on and how I’m helping myself day by day and whether you can’t relate at all or you do... whatever it is that makes you read, I hope you enjoy and of course, any suggestions on things to do and try... chuck ‘em my way.

Until next time...

Elle x 

Saturday, 7 October 2017

Feelings

Feeling (Noun):
  1. An emotional state or reaction.
2. An idea or belief, especially a vague or irrational one.

Feeling (Adjective):
1. Showing emotion or sensitivity.

No one has the right to tell you how you should or shouldn’t feel about anything in life. Ever.

It doesn’t matter if you have quite literally cried over spilt milk or you don’t react to something so crazy that everyone else is getting angry about. The way you feel is completely personal to you. Some people will get mad and tell someone to fuck off when they’re rude, some will suck it up and then go home to cry later and some may just not even react at all. 

Everyone will have their own opinion on how they think you should feel and react to things in life but no one has the right to put you down for feeling and reacting to such things in the way you do. Do not under any circumstances let anyone make you feel shitty for getting upset over things that they claim wouldn’t faze them or vice versa.

Everyone experiences the world and the things that happen to them differently. Everyone experiences overwhelming emotions at some point in their life. That’s what makes it so beautiful. That someone could feel that powerfully. They feel that strongly about something in their life. That they will fight to have their feelings heard. That’s what makes human connections so special. The fact that someone may not feel hurt and upset the way you do but that they try to understand and guide you into dealing with such emotions. They may help you to see things in a different light, a bigger picture or maybe just to sit and listen. To accept that what you’re saying in that moment in time is exactly how you feel and that won’t change. Not for them, not for anyone. Because your feelings are yours. Your emotions are yours. No one can take that away from you. 

So, if you want to cry because you missed the bus or you want to snap your pen in anger because it’s run out of ink or maybe you want to stand up and shout about how much you love and adore someone, do it. Don’t think twice. Don’t regret. Don’t let anyone tell you how you should feel or react. 

Do what you feel and live unapologetically. You are you. You feel what you do and no one can ever take that away from you.


Elle x 

Friday, 6 October 2017

Christmas Chaos

Yes, yes I know what you’re thinking. Why is she talking about Christmas when we haven’t even got through Halloween yet? I’ll tell you why. 

From as early as August big stores such as Harrods and Selfridges start plastering their shop floors and websites with everything Christmas. Now, don’t get me wrong, I am a huge lover of everything Christmas but every year, it seems to start earlier and earlier and the cost just continues to rise.

If you think about it, how many people realistically celebrate Christmas for religious purposes and not just for the purpose of gift giving and over indulging? Not many. And this is exactly what corporations play on. I am one of the least religious people you will ever come across however I do still celebrate Christmas for those exact reasons I just stated, gift giving and over indulging. So, yes. I too, have been sucked into the big money-spending corporation that we call Christmas.

I’m not saying there’s necessarily anything wrong with that either. We all do exactly the same for Easter, Valentine’s Day, Shrove Tuesday and so on... not because we want to celebrate those days but maybe more for the fact we feel like we have to. Because if we don’t, we won’t be following what society wants us to do, we won’t fit in and we will certainly get major FOMO.

Think about it. How many times have you been rushing round the shops in the lead up to Christmas grabbing anything and everything off the shelves. “3 for 2 on complete an utter shit that no one actually wants? Perfect! I’ll take 12!” We’ve all done it. We all get sucked in. There’s nothing wrong with spending money and treating the ones we love but it’s also important to see the bigger picture of it all. Why would you spend £600 (sounds OTT but it all adds up) on everyone over Christmas on tat that no one really wants/needs when that’s more than half your monthly wage? And even if that’s only 1/4 of your monthly wage then why the hell are you wasting it anyway?! 

And let me make this clear, there is absolutely nothing wrong with gift-giving over the Christmas holidays. I love to do it myself. I absolutely love buying thoughtful gifts for the ones I love and put smiles on their faces but be smart about it. Don’t over spend. Don’t buy what you can’t afford. Don’t have pennies left at the end of the month because you’ve spent more than you can afford on gifts that people might not even want. Don’t get sucked into the offers that are constantly plastered over the TV, radio, shops, magazines and newspapers that aren’t actually offers at all as you end up buying more and spending more just to save 3 quid on stuff you didn’t want in the first place.

One thing I love doing is to use Christmas as an opportunity to buy people experiences that I know they would love to do but would never book themselves rather than give materialistic items. Giving someone the gift of an experience you know they’ll love will not only be so much nicer to receive on the day but will also create memories for the future instead of something that will just get pushed to the back of the wardrobe in a months time. 

I guess the whole point of this post is to realise that’s it absolutely fine to enjoy Christmas, to over indulge and enjoy yourself but just don’t over spend. Really think about the presents you want to buy. Spread the cost of buying gifts over a couple months, looks for discount codes, offers (the good kind not the ones that don’t actually save you anything) and most importantly, budget. I’ve already completed over half my Christmas shopping and I’ve made sure I’ve got the best deals possible, budgeted it all and saved myself plently of money whilst still buying amazing gifts for the ones I love.

Another important point to make is to not just think of yourself and the ones you love at Christmas but also the ones who have no one to love them. The homeless, elderly who don’t have family/live on their own and those that can’t even afford a Christmas dinner. I will be helping in whatever way I can by taking food to food banks and looking into making Christmas Boxes filled with toys/food/clothes and so on for those that need it most. If anyone reading knows of any charities who do this kind of thing or even if you’d want to join me in helping then please don’t hesitate to contact me through any means on my ‘Contact’ page at the top of my blog. 

So, remember. Eat lots, enjoy the festive period and make plenty of amazing memories but do give gifts without over spending and damaging the bank account and help those around who are less fortunate to have a magical Christmas too.

Thank you for reading 

Elle x

Thursday, 21 September 2017

Chop To Your Chin | Little Princess Trust | Part 2

Wow. 

What an amazing day!

If you read my previous blog post this morning then props to you and if you didn’t... what are you playing at?! Get reading Part 1... Chop chop ;)

I didn’t think much could come close to the buzz I got from jumping out the sky at over 10,000ft last month for Mind but oh, how wrong I was. This may not be the same type of adrenaline rush as skydiving but I have not stopped smiling ear to ear since I walked into my salon today at La Belle Hairdressers. 

I kept getting asked if I was nervous about having my hair cut off but I honestly felt nothing but excitement. It’s such an incredible feeling knowing my hair will be made into a wig and given to a little girl who has sadly lost hers. 

I also want to take the time to thank everyone who was involved today. Thank you to La Belle for hosting the event, Ciara for creating an amazing haircut as always, the beautiful Riannon for joining me today and cutting her hair also, Kate Sumner for making the best cupcakes I’ve ever tasted for the event, Rachael for holding our own mini photo shoot after the chop and everyone who has shown love to my bombardment of pictures and posts all throughout the day. Once again, if you’d like to find out more then head on over to the Little Princess Trust to have a read on why they partnered up with GHD and salons alike to create a National #CHOPTOYOURCHIN Day.

I, for one, can say I am absolutely thrilled with my new look and can’t wait to play around with lots of fun new styles!

I hope at least one of you reading has been inspired by this amazing cause and if not, I hope these pictures can change your mind...


#CHOPTOYOURCHIN

Elle x 









Chop To Your Chin | Little Princess Trust | Part 1

National ‘Chop To Your Chin’ Day

GHD have partnershipped with the Little Princess Trust to launch a nationwide campaign encouraging everyone to ‘Chop To Your Chin’. Throughout September and October both the charity and GHD are encouraging those with long hair to chop it off in order to make a little Princess feel a million dollars with a (free) wig.

Hair is such a personal thing especially for a girl or woman. It’s a way to express yourself through style, cut and colour. Whether you rock a messy bun, a pixi cut or long flowing locks, your hair is completely personal to you. 

For a lot of girls and women the thought of cutting off their long locks gives them ultimate fear but I couldn’t think of anything more exciting to do knowing that my hair will be made into wigs for little girls who have lost theirs through Cancer and other diseases. These wigs are not only handmade they are also free. There is a constant demand for hair donations so no matter what gender or age you may be if you fancy a change whilst doing something amazing then click on the link below to find out more and how you can partake in September/October.  

http://www.littleprincesses.org.uk/chop-chin-ghd/

I will be having my haircut at my local salon La Belle at 2.30pm and will be posting all the pictures up on a separate blog post later today. 

If you have long hair and could cut off 7 inches or more then please consider taking part in such an amazing opportunity to make a little Princess’s day enabling her to swish her hair once again. And let’s get real, it’s hair. It grows. It will be long once more. And what better time to get a new do than the transition into Autumn/Winter?!

#CHOPTOYOURCHIN

My shorter locks will see you later today...

Elle x 

Friday, 8 September 2017

Mind Your P's & Q's

Mind your P's and Q's.

Definition: Mind your Ps and Qs is an English expression meaning "mind your manners", "mind your language", "be on your best behaviour" or similar. 

Hard to comprehend? Didn't think so.

From when we are blabbering, drooling, shitting machines we are taught manners, politeness. So, why the fuck are adults so rude? 

I have worked in retail for over 5 years and have always loved the interaction with customers. Loyalty is built up, friendships are made, stories are told and shoulders are cried on. It can be the most rewarding environment to be in. You're in such a powerful position to turn someone's day around and truly make them happy. 

But, lets not carried away. In reality, working in retail is no longer like this. People are rude as fuck. We get shouted at, moaned at, sarcastic comments made, belittling, patronising wankers shitting all over our day. And why? Because quite clearly we are dumb blondes who can apply a bit of lippy but know nothing about the world and have nothing better to do then to bow down to these said people who are, of course, of much superior stature.

I, myself, am a feisty, potty-mouthed, sarcastic fuck who won't take shit from anybody but chuck a uniform on and that has to be switched off quicker than the porn you had up before your mum walked in. It's kind of ironic though, isn't it? How I quote the definition of "Mind your P's and Q's" then swear my way through a blog post. But that's the point. It's not about swearing, if anything, I encourage it (unless it's at me then fuck you, too!). It's not about being on your best behaviour either. It's simply about not being an asshole to those who work in retail, or anyone, ever. There is no need. It cannot be justified. 

So, all in all. Time to wrap up (I'm a tired and need to watch more Modern Family to be completely honest). The point is, be polite. That girl or guy who is stood behind the counter works long hours, standing all day, getting shit pay and moaned at day in day out for not smiling enough or being 5 quid off target. No, it's not the most demanding job in the world but it isn't the easiest either. You, as the consumer, can make our day a million times better just by saying "please" and "thank you" and responding when we say "hello, how are you?" Instead of a hand shoved in our face, products snatched from us and the drama that unfolds when something is out of stock or someone is on break. I mean, how dare we have time to eat and pee, right!? 

And believe me, the rumours are true. If you are rude, you will be made into a mockery to every colleague, family member, boyfriend, girlfriend, dog, cat and old lady at the bus stop that we come in contact with. But if you are simply polite, we will go out of our way to ensure you have the best service and experience possible.

Spread kindness not asshole-like tendencies!

Night.

Elle x 

Saturday, 29 July 2017

No one is you and that is your power

I've hit that point in my life where it feels like everyone around me is doing something amazing with their life and achieving great things whilst I'm stuck in limbo. 

I have been feeling lost, if you will, for a rather long time. I have absolutely no clue what I want to be, what I want to do and where I want to go. Constantly opening, closing, refreshing social media apps and all I see is people graduating with first class honours, travelling the world, getting that job they've always dreamed of and here I am, no degree (by choice, I know), no travels and no amazing, highflying job. And the worst part? I can't muster the big, hairy balls to achieve the same.

I have this big, fiery burning desire in the pit of me wanting to drop everything and travel the world. I want to climb mountains. I want to sleep in caves. On the beach. In a hammock under the stars. I want to learn new languages. Cultures. Taste new delicacies. I want to dance. Sing. Feel free. Be free. I want to kiss on private islands. I want to love all over the world. I want to make friends. I want to take pictures. I want to dive deep into the ocean and film it for all to see. I want to work hard all day just to spend it all getting blackout drunk a few hours later. 

I have this big vision. A vision of me in the perfect dress. Perfect heels. Valentino's, yes please. Perfect bag placed perfectly upon my shoulder. Gucci, just for the record. Strutting into my office, abroad. CEO? Why not. I want to be a boss. A leader. A team player. I want to inspire. I want to motivate. I want to make money. Lots of it.

What's holding me back? Fear of failure. Fear in general. Just straight up fucking fear. Judgement. Losing people. The list goes on. In reality, I'm 21 and nothing right now is holding me back from achieving my dreams. Yet still I stay. Still I sit unhappy. Still I don't change careers. Why? The battle in my head, going back and forth over the positives, the negatives and everything in between. Overthinking is a killer. A big old shit storm that sticks around and never seems to leave. 

The problem is, I say I have no idea what I want to be or do and where I want to go yet I still listed two big dreams right there. In black and white. No thinking. Just typing what I feel. It's hard when you feel like this, not to lose your way. Not to lose your identity. Although I may know I want to be a well-travelled, blonde bombshell (you have to toot your own horn sometimes...) running her own company. I still don't know what that company will be. Or when I will achieve it. And the one thing I keep reminding myself is, "no one is you and that is your power". I may not have travelled the world yet. Or got that incredible job. But I will get there. I will get there in my own time. I will grow the big, hairy balls needed for this in my own time. I will push aside the overthinking, the fear, I will stop moaning and just fucking do it. 

Until next time...

Elle x